Maybe that's why so much of the romantic arts we're studying are tied up with violence. The limits are so much greater.

[ Oh, that's helpful. He's oddly into her adjusting his hand position, of all things. It's a direct, practical gesture that's demonstrating trust while politely acknowledging his lack of experience and correcting it. He taps the infamous clitoris a few times, gauging how much pressure is too light and how much gets a twitch. He should make sure he can find it in the future, in case it becomes relevant. ]

...But just about anyone can pull hair. My previous lovers have all had shorter hair, which is much less painful no matter how tightly you grip it. One of them liked to use it as a handle when I'd suck him, so he could set the pace - I put a stop to that, of course, I'd yank on the hair I had within my grasp and ask him how he liked it every time he tried! But you might like it; you like being under control if you can be cheeky about it.

[ He's not sure if he's more embarrassed about directly admitting that he has prior sexual experience or about admitting how petty he can be. ]